My engagement is messed up (The wedding is postponed)

By Musleh Khan

As Salam alaykum Warahmatullah wabaraktuh .

brothers and sisters my engagement is messed up here is Part three.
you’ve postponed the wedding just once. so everything was in place but for some reason a big problem has come about whether it’s from the couple whether it’s from extended family doesn’t matter what happened the point is it’s such a big problem that it actually affected the date that you two were supposed to get married now it’s been postponed for another six months another year.

whatever the cases when something is postponed to this degree
it’s a clear indication that things need to be addressed there are problems in that relationship that need to be addressed immediately even if you both have a mutual agreement that you both decided that look we’re not gonna do this right now what you’ve decided here at this point is marriage is not appropriate or it’s not the right time to go into that kind of relationship

maybe he needs to save up a little bit more money | maybe there are certain things that she needs to learn about yourself or about marriage
whatever the case is the point is that this year is telling you that the engagement needs more time. Now here’s where the problem lies if you still regardless how many times you postpone|marriage you still at the end of the day rushed towards the next date you rushed towards putting together the next date so that you can get married these are some of the things that brothers and sisters when it comes to our feelings they don’t actually have exact date lines, they don’t have expiry dates it just feels right at the right time.This is why we have Salat-ul-Istikhara(The Prayer of seeking Guidance) and this is why with some of the signs that Istikhara is accepted is not an exact particular sign.

You don’t know exactly one thing that’s going to indicate to you that your Istikhara is accepted. It’s a series of different things that you have to look out for of how you feel What the Prophet sallallaahu early was described|to us that gut feeling inside of you that something feels right or something just doesn’t feel right.You have to look for these indicators out there so that you know from that these are decisions that I need to make In Shaa Allah to plan my next the wedding date.
so brothers and sisters you want to make sure that when something major like this happens that the date is postponed that you really need to sit down you need to talk about a lot of things why was it postponed assess yourselves assess each other’s personalities and even if you need to, I recommend that you even sit down with a counselor and talk about these issues and talk about whatever is there that’s cause you to postpone your wedding date and discuss these issues.Have been resolved, bring clarity to them so that in sha Allah. That is one less problem for you to deal with when the marriage actually happens.

Remember Brothers and Sisters, marriage is a beautiful thing and I’ve always said that when people complain to you and say that when you get married life literally goes downhill that understand brothers and sisters that they’re only talking about their own marriages.
They’re talking about themselves. Whatever problems they’re having.Our Prophet SAW and Allah SWT, we will never have the legislation of marriage if it was something meant to ruin your life so that’s really important for you|to consider and if a marriage is done properly and it’s done according to the Quranic teachings according to the tradition of our Prophet sallallahu|alayhi wasalam then marriage literally feels like a little Jannah in this world. It’s the place where you will go to find happiness and find tranquility. Now if all of this is delayed for whatever reason this is a sign you need to take your time don’t rush of feelings don’t rush into the engagement don’t rush for that wedding day it will come in shaa Allah at the right time. At the end of this brothers and sisters this is Allah Qadr and you don’t ever want to question Allah SWT Qadr. May Allah SWT bless you all and make it easy for us.
As Salam alaykum Warahmatullah wabaraktuh .

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